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How to Keep Your Marriage a Priority After a Baby

New parents! Congrats on the arrival of your precious little nugget. While the world is undoubtedly a brighter place with your little one in it, you might have noticed that parenthood can throw some curveballs at your relationship... Lets chat about why it's so important to keep the love alive in your marriage post-baby and give you some simple tips to make it happen.

Why It's a Must

  1. Rock-Solid Foundation: Your relationship is like the bedrock of your family. By taking care of it, you're creating a safe and loving space for your mini-me to grow up in.

  2. Supercharged Parenting: A happy, healthy marriage is like a power boost for your parenting skills. When you and your partner are in sync, it's like having a trusty sidekick in this wild journey of raising a child.

  3. Future Blueprint: Think of your relationship as a sneak peek into your kid's future love life. By showing them the value of love, respect, and commitment, you're setting them up for success in their own relationships. I recently heard that your marriage will teach your kids the kind of marriage that they want, or the kind that the don’t.

Ways to Prioritize Your Marriage Post-Baby

  1. Chat It Out: Communication is the secret sauce to any successful relationship. So, make time to have those heart-to-heart convos about your feelings, worries, and desires. Remember, listening is just as important as talking.

  2. Date Nights FTW: Yeah, it's a challenge to find alone time… but date nights are like CPR for your love life. Whether it's a cozy dinner at home or a night out (baby-free!), it's the perfect opportunity to reconnect.

  3. Teamwork Makes the Dream Work: Parenting is a team sport, folks! Discuss who's on diaper duty, baby feeding, and late-night shifts. When you both share the load, it lightens the burden and keeps things fair. I have another post on how dads can help!

  4. Call in the Cavalry: Don't be shy about asking for help from family and friends. They can give you and your partner a much-needed breather and a chance to spend time together.

  5. Love Notes and Hugs: Little gestures of love can make a big difference. Give your partner compliments, say "I love you" often, and show gratitude for their hard work.

  6. Self-Care Is Key: Remember, taking care of yourselves is just as important as taking care of your baby. Find time for some "me-time" – whether it's a quick workout, a long bath, or diving into a hobby you love.

  7. Pro Help If Necessary: If you're struggling, don't hesitate to seek professional help like couples counseling. They're like the marriage mechanics who can help you iron out any kinks.

  8. Embrace Imperfection: Here's the real deal – parenthood is messy and not perfect, and that's perfectly okay! Embrace the beautiful chaos and focus on the love and joy your baby brings.

Keeping the love alive after having a baby is all about making your relationship a priority, without the pressure of being perfect. Remember, it's okay to ask for help, share the load, and put in the effort to keep your relationship on track. By talking openly, having date nights, and appreciating the small things, you can ensure your love story continues to thrive through the ups and downs of parenthood. Your little one deserves to grow up in a loving and harmonious environment, and your relationship is the heart and soul of that journey. So, keep the love alive and enjoy the adventure! 💑👶❤️